Parents and families in our culture are too busy. J.D. used the term secondhand stress in our video teaching time this week to describe what’s happening to children as parents fill up their days and weeks with experiences that they believe will enrich their kids’ lives, instead of allowing unstructured time to play and rest. Parents are swamped, rushed and overwhelmed and it rubs off on the children in their presence. In his book, Crazy Busy, Kevin deYoung writes, “By trying to do so much for them, we are actually making our kids less happy.”1 He also writes, “It’s harder to ruin our kids than we think and harder to stamp them for success than we’d like. We fear that a few wrong moves will ruin our children forever, and at the same time assume that the right combination of protection and instruction will invariably produce godly children.”2
One of the definitions of stress is “the burden on one’s emotional or mental well-being created by demands on one’s time.” I agree! Demands on our time cause a burden to our well-being. This is where I need the reminder of Ephesians 5:15-16. There is not enough time in a day to accomplish everything I want to, so I must be wise in what I choose. The good news is my to-do list doesn’t usually match up with God’s list for me. I expect His list is shorter and has far more room in the calendar for rest. My husband would definitely agree. I’m more likely to be the one to fill the white space on our calendar with obligations. I’ve learned over time that the white space is most often where God works in and through us.
Kevin DeYoung, Crazy Busy (Wheaton: Crossway, 2013), 70-71.Ibid., 68.
Excerpted from Ready to Launch. © 2014 J.D. and Veronica Greear. Published by LifeWay Press®. Used by permission. http://lfwy.co/1fT4wGe
Question to ponder: What are you ‘too busy’ with? How can you take time to slow down this week and spend more quality time with your family?